If you lead, teach, parent, or coach, you’ve probably found yourself in a moment where you want to help…
…but you’re not quite sure what to do.
You feel they want an answer, but you don’t have the answer.
You sense the pressure to say something … anything, just to fill the uncomfortable silence. You blurt something out, it doesn’t quite land, and then self-doubt really sets in.
You react instead of pausing. You give advice instead of asking a question. Or you just do the thing yourself because it’s faster.
The other person pulls back or becomes defensive … not exactly what you were going for when you were just trying to help.
It’s a vicious, exhausting cycle that hurts rather than helps the relationship that you care about.
