Making new friends
I appear to have more books than I realized. This month I’ve moved into a new office. It’s really the first time I’ve had my own beautiful space for working...
4 words we all jump at
So cute! Or are they? There are four words most of us love to hear: “I need your advice.” They’re flattering. They’re validating. They’re also...
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Add a familiar and a little weird
Molly G in 2019, the catalyst for my first mastermind group.Molly died recently, and I miss her and celebrate her. One reason for my happiness and success (and probably in...
Two questions for a great conversation
I had the pleasure of hanging out IRL with Conspirators in Toronto. One of the roles I try to inhabit is that of a good host. That’s not just bringing...
Stop to celebrate
It’s here! Hard-backed and all. Well, today’s the pub day for The Coaching Habit 10th anniversary edition. Woo hoo! I’m a lot less anxious and tangled up about this one,...
I care (and don’t care)
To care, to not care. How do you do both? I left the most provocative for last … The final of the four paradoxes in the new chapter of the...
The paradoxes of being a coach
A paradox of outfits, from a recent photoshoot. When people think about coaching, they often think about questions. Good and clever and insightful questions. The kind of questions that unlock...
Why we struggle with the need to fix things
My definition of patience, cheeky smile included. Last week, I hosted a session on something every person who coaches wrestles with — confidence and patience. If you missed it, the...
I’m encouraging you to get it wrong. (Wait, what?)
The I-Thou relationship of coaching Encouraging you to get it wrong? That sounds … well, what does it sound like to you?Dangerous? Liberating? Confusing? Career-limiting? All of the above? In...
Microclimates, not just for plants
A bright and cheerful microclimate I want to build on last week’s newsletter because I got responses to it that I suspect you might relate to. Many people shared that...
There are four growth phases. Which are you in?
An ecological metaphor, even if I’m covered in snow (literally) Most of us are not great at diagnosing our own growth. We tend to compare ourselves to others and assume...
My new favourite question
Asking this added a few new ones to my list You might have thought you had all the questions you needed to build better conversations, unlock curiosity, and be more...
What brings out your best?
Frankly, this doesn’t look good We’re well into the year (I know! Don’t panic!), and it’s a perfect moment to take a beat and look at all those things you...